And letting me know they have the right to change their minds.
That’s deep learning.
I stand for fearlessness. Feel the fear and do it anyway.
Own the fear, its ugly. Really ugly.
I stand for truth because it always prevails.
I stand for making my life and making my life right.
Sometimes life and the choices I make are right. However, they just don’t work.
I stand for feeling my feelings no matter how much it seems they hurt.
I stand for Victory. Doing what’s right even though I want to throw my hands in the air and say fuck it all.
At the end of it and inside of all of these experiences, I can look myself in the mirror and say, I fucking love you Noreen. You are indeed powerful and you are love.
I can feel good about myself and remain in alignment with the world and all its people no matter what is said. I can walk the streets of my hood naked and feel the feeling but good with myself. I can express my scars and wounds with pride. I can carry my head high. I’ll smile when I see you. I’ll feel good about myself. I’ll know my worth, my love. I am safe in the world, I’m confident that love is present, I’ll have no regrets, I took the risk. I remain courageous in the unknown. I’ll be giddy with joy, that I’m truly free. Scoop myself up in my arms and say in a loud voice:
HAVE YOU BEEN WANTING TO WORK OUT IN THE MORNING AND YOU JUST CAN’T SEEM GET OUT OF BED? DO YOU WAKE UP AND RENEGOTIATE YOUR PROMISE TO EXERCISE, TURN OVER IN BED AND SAY @#$@ IT, OR DO ONE OF THE FOLLOWING THINGS:
GET UP AND GO WORKOUT
PULL THE BLANKET OVER YOUR HEAD, SNUGGLE DOWN AND GO BACK TO SLEEP
SAY, OH, I’LL DO IT TOMORROW – BUT TOMORROW NEVER COMES
SAY, I’LL DO IT SOON, AND SOON NEVER COMES BECAUSE YOU DON’T HAVE A PLAN
SAY, I CAN’T BE BOTHERED, I HAVE TOO MUCH TO DO, AND I’M TIRED.
IT’S TOO COLD, TOO HOT OUTSIDE
GOSH, I SAY THIS EVERYMORNING, DO YOU FIND YOU’RE REPEATING THESE THOUGHTS EVERY DAY?
YOU GO BACK TO SLEEP AND ANOTHER DAY PASSES.
Noreen Sumpter is a Personal Life Coach and resident of Clinton Hill before it was Trendy and FABULOUS.
Noreen was born and bred in South (Saff) East London, England. A Certified Life Coach with over 10 years’ experience, she is passionate, bright, funny and full of energy. Noreen has spent a large part of her life in Clinton Hill.
I used to be that person, I used promise myself to get out of bed and exercise. Sometimes, I did. However, it was more like wishing to exercise. Wishing to get up. I would often play mind games and try to work out in bed. Not. I would promise to go out. I’d make every excuse known to man to find a way out. I even created workout buddies and pray they would punk out and they did.
Last year, I was diagnosed with Diabetes and I swung into action, within 6 months my glucose went from 10.5 to 6.4 and lost 40lbs of body fat thus reversing my Diabetes. Sexy, sexy… Using my knowledge and gifts as a Personal Life Coach, I am here to support others to take action, create a purpose to get in shape by getting out of bed and help you redesign your body using your thoughts and taking actions to have your body be the tool it was designed for. No more excuses. I will provide you with knowledge to take deliberate actions to live life your way fulfilling your dreams, and desires and rekindling an amazing relationship with your mind and body.
Join me on 3 weekly 45-60 minute walks, where you will move your energy and receive Personal coaching that will empower you to love you and the body you’re in using the Law of Attraction and other transformational tools to create positive results in your life
For more information, Contact 917 945 5907 or email@example.com
The thing that you’re looking for is everywhere. The moment you know what you’re looking for it becomes available.
Why is this so? It’s because the thing that you want has value to you. It does not matter what the thing is. For most of us it’s a job, business or in my case a man. When you know that you are looking for the opportunities and information become apparent. If you know don’t know what you’re looking for, you will never find it.
It is also true for things that you cannot be straight about. If you can’t say what you’re looking for you’ll will never have it, even if it is something that you might have the opportunity to see every day. I remember dating a guy that drove a big orange diesel power Mercedes Benz. I’d never seen anything like it before in fact, I was embarrassed to ride in it. Anyway, the moment, I started dating him and driving around in his big orange/yellow Benz, it was as though the car was everywhere. Why? Because he drove the car. And as much as I did not like the car, he was important to me, so replicas of his car would show up everywhere.
It is important to pay attention to what is of value to you because it becomes easier to find and or attract it.
I had no idea how fat I was until I lost weight. When I look at pictures of myself, I look like a completely different person. To people that know me, they have done a double take, creep slowly up to me and say my name. “Noreen, is that you. Oh my. I did not know it was you.” That is the constant conversations, I am hearing these days.
Well heck, I don’t even recognize me. I do a double take when I see my reflection. Where on earth did my body store 52 lbs? I had no idea what 52 lbs looked like. I thought it was all in my tummy. I thought that I could keep my butt and lose my tummy. Fat is everywhere and it was in every aspect of my body. Omg, the places where I did not know fat lived it lived. I have never heard anyone talk about where fat lives. Well, I am her to tell you that I had fat on my vagina. My vagina had fat on it. Yes, that might be too much information, but it was information that I would have liked to know about. We talk about bellies and butts losing weight, and it is on my vagina that I noticed a significant amount of weight loss. I had no idea that I would lose weight on my vagina. It was shocking. Not only was my butt going through a transition where it never really felt what it was like to sit on a chair and feel my butt bones reacting. My vagina, or my Fopa (Fat Outer Pussy Area) as my sister and I like to refer to the fat on our public bone also vagina. It was thinner leaner, like lean beef. I have not test driven my new thinner vagina yet. However, I will let you know when I do. I am a little afraid and excited all at the same time.
Anyway, go forward, I lost weight in my cheeks, my armpits, and every place that you could think of where fat lived. Ears, nose, every place. I have bone touching bone.
Yes, I am flabbergasted. I would be lying if I said that I did not miss it. I do, I miss the warmth of my fat. I could wear a tee-shirt under my coat and be warm. Now, I have to layer. Ask me if I like layering, I do not layering is uncomfortable plus it produces way too much laundry.
Losing weight is a strange experience and I am here to tell you that dieting does not work. I thought it would be difficult and actually it was not when I just did it and did not obsess about it.
What I learned in the fat loss experience is that being consistent even though you might not see movement of the needle on the scale changing from day to day one have to be consistent. Some weeks you can lost 2lbs and other 1lbs and sometimes none at all. Consistency is the key to fat loss.
You know what else is funny, people love weight loss stories, and people get really excited for you when you lose weight. I like to say release weight.
Anyway, I am still releasing, shedding and losing. I will keep you posted about my weight loss journey.
Just a quick note. I loved my body when it was fat. I will let you know how my new experience with this leaner body is going.
Did you know that happiness is a choice and you can make up your mind to be happy today? Happiness is a moment to moment choice and with that choice it becomes your expression.
Omg when a women is happy, it is the sweetest thing on the planet. Happiness brings health, which brings wealth and abundance. When you are happy everything that could be wrong is immediately in that moment made right. I am so happy. I am generating myself and creating my mission had having a life filled with Truth, Voice, and Power. “Happy Woman Happy World.” Is alive and well on the planet. Its, Monday morning and I am great. I had my coffee, my allotted 2 pieces of toast that was dripping in butter, and a hardboiled egg. Now, I am at my desk and I am in action.
In my life there are things that are working and things that are not working. Things like, credit card bills, basic bills, I have not yet unearthed the man of my wildest dreams or should I say that he has not yet unearthed me or heard my enormous joyous laugh which will lead him to me. I still have Diabetes and 16lbs left to release off of my body and yet my heart is busting at the seams with joy. I have this vision of stars and fairy dust being sprinkle all over the planet from my heart. Yeah!
Anyway, that’s me. What will it take to have you make up your mind to be a happy today?
You can be happy no matter what your circumstance, the key is to accept them.
You can be overweight and happy,
Single and happy,
In debt and happy,
Going through a divorce/breaking up and happy
Losing your job and happy
Sick and happy
All of these things can be happening and you can still choose to be happy right here right now.
You can also support a friend who might be going through these things with your happiness. Happiness is an energy that is shared and expressed. Just as being around someone who is miserable is contagious. Being around people who are happy is also contagious. I used to be a black cloud. I had no idea how I affected others when I was being miserable, until I discovered that I am energy and I can choose to be happy no matter what is going on. I was such as black cloud that people were afraid of me. They could not contribute to me. When I found that out I was really sad. However, the confession to me was proof that I was no longer that person because they had space to share how I impacted their life. Whew! Thank God that’s over.
I have experienced divorce and breakup and I was still happy. I am single, looking and I am happy, I am living with a dis-ease Diabetes and I am happy working on managing it.
I have found that if I can be happy with all of these circumstances, I can just be happy. Most people feel that they will be happy when the master some desire or need they think of happiness as a side effect. I am here to tell you that happiness just is. Be happy and create a life that lights you up like a bottle rocket.
Think about something that makes you happy
Make yourself a happiness log
When feeling down, remember 2 actions that will make you happy
Smile no matter how your feeling – Smile at 5 strangers – Smile for 60 seconds
Think of a silly song and hum it to yourself
Stand strong, make an affirmative choice to be happy today! Love you.
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If you cannot answer this question openly, you might have an issue. If you think the statement is presumptuous then you might have an issue. If you agree with this statement, you might have an issue with others. But do you care? I think I am all that and a bag of chips.
I went out with a male friend of mine the other night who, on making plans, said to me: “look sexy tonight.” I replied with “I am sexy all the time.” He asked “who told you that?” I replied “I did.” He then said, “you’re not sexy until I tell you that.” I laughed. I told him that I am like a self-cleaning oven and I can also self-validate. We laughed. I’m sure for different reasons. I, for my ability to self-validate and he, for God only knows what. What I do know is sexy is a tone, it is a way of being, not something one has to do and you can be as sexy as you choose.
Take a minute to hold that question and let it infuse on your mind then answer this question. Are you sexy, hot, the cat’s meow, all that and a bag of chips? Don’t automatically assume that it’s the kind of “who do you think you are” that belonged to your elders, and makes you feel uncomfortable where you are judging yourself against another person and making yourself wrong.
The kind of “who do you think you are” that I am speaking to and interested in is the kind where you know who you are intuitively and you have the confidence to share it proudly. Actually, it’s so clear you don’t even have to say anything. Its gets reverberated in your life.
It’s an experience of the days you recognize when you’re being so sexy that you hear it whispered in the wind, it’s just who you are in that moment. You are the cat’s meow, all that and a bag of chips. You know who you are. That’s the kind of “who do you think you are” that I am talking about. It has no words. It’s all being.
“Who do you think you are” can be translated for me: I am a woman, I am black, I am tall, I am English, and I’m a Confidence and self-esteem coach, daughter of Mr. and Ms. Johnson, 5’8″. “Who do you think you are” has nothing to do with any of those identifiers. That is not the kind of “who do you think I am” that I am even remotely interested in. However, that is not to say that those descriptions are not interesting. They are just facts that I am not interested in. They are the kinds of fact that you share with people to make acquaintances with. The meat and potatoes of whom you are.
The kind of who do you think you are that I am interested is an inside job.
What do you love about your life?
What are you passionate about?
What are you interested in?
What do you want to be remembered for?
What are you proud of?
What do people say they love about you?
What contribution have you made and to whom?
What’s one thing that no one knows about you and you wish they did?
What are you willing to share about yourself?
What are you afraid of?
What are you excited about?
What’s the most courageous thing that you have ever done for another?
The kind of “who do you think you are,” is the kind that rocks your boat and excite you. It’s the question that has you get up in the morning and look forward, it’s the kind of question when you think about it your mouth salivates or your fingers itch and you cannot wait to get back to or share. It is the kind of who do you think you are that you make pictures of it in the air. If you were a cartoon character it would pop out as an air bubble in the sky. That is the kind of who do you think you are that is generates your energy it interesting.
The sad thing is that many of you have had the “who do you think you are” beaten out of you. When the question gets asked of you, you find yourself shrinking, experiencing confusion and feeling put out. Very few of you can answer this question and get excited about sharing. Most of you were taught not to brag about yourselves or your interests, it was as though you never got emotionally fed. You had to find ways feed yourselves which kept many of your interests squashed.
So what happens when you feel squashed, many of my clients experience a hard time going after what they desire. They are good at their jobs, they have successful businesses, make money, but when it comes to their personal needs it gets put on the back burner of their life. They have a hard time going for what they want for fear of not getting it right. Adults need to get things right which gives them no freedom.
Their dreams can get so clouded over they don’t know what they want for themselves and their lives. They have a difficult time with themselves. They have a hard time asking for help and support and don’t believe that they can get it. They also feel that something is wrong with them if they seek the support of a coaches or a support system for many they don’t believe they deserve and they will sabotage their successes by not doing the work. However, when this becomes clear with commitment and understanding of their behavior they flourish. This sabotage is because they are always the person doing the helping and are confused and frustrated when they need the help. Lots of confusion and fear kick in.
Most of all you’re afraid to go after what you want as you are so afraid that you will be less attractive seen as aggressive, in some cases odd if you go after what you want with fervor you fear you might will be all alone you can’t have a life of, fun, happiness or a life partner with your endeavors.
It is important to really think about who you think you are. What is important to you? It is important to gain clarity and live in the world that you create for yourself with your rules. When you know what is important to you and take the steps develop the confidence to go after it you will be confident in the world of who do you think you are. It will not only be a thought it will become your reality. Also, when you know who you are you will learn that you are an evolving individual who is and can recreate yourself as often as you like. If you feel that you’re sexy, hot, the cat’s meow, you will be a bag of chips and all that. Furthermore, your way of being will echo it in the world.
Who do you think you are? Think about it and be it.
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We are all guilty of judging ourselves at one time or another and at times we are harder on ourselves then we would be with others. Thinking about how you would treat someone else in the same situation can help. Pretend you saw someone commit whatever sin you are judging yourself for. What would you think of what you witnessed? Would you think they were stupid? Would you even care?
The Spirit and the Universe never judge us, so why do we have the right to judge ourselves? What standards are we judging ourselves against? If you have a high standard of judgment your going to judge yourself harder and much more unsympathetically than anyone would ever judge you. As humans, we judge ourselves about everything. We judge our actions, our thoughts, our feelings, and we even judge our dreams. In turn, we judge others based on our own visions; then we judge ourselves for judging other people. It is a form of madness created out of confusion.
We live in a real world made up of mistakes, learning and evolving. What a beauty it is that all people learn differently and at different times. Our ideas and thoughts are just like flowers: some come up and bud early, some bud and bloom later, some go half way between budding and blooming then die. Some just die as seeds in the ground or buds on the vine. It is not right or wrong, it is just what happens.
Many of us internalize the criticism we learn from our parents and friends. We transfer those judgments to other people who we feel seem to judge us. However many of the people that we project onto act as our mirrors and reflect our own disappointment.
I have heard people describe situations in their life as wrong. Nothing is or was wrong, it just didn’t turn out the way they wanted it to. They see what happened as some form of punishment from God. They see God as a stern parent that gives out rewards and punishment, rewards if you do well and punishment if you do wrong. The God that I know did not create morals, people did. Our spirit does not dish out judgment, it never judges us. The spirit gives us opportunities to balance and learn. If we made a mistake we can create an opportunity to balance it. What if we gave ourselves the same opportunity that the spirit gave us? We could give ourselves the same opportunity to stop judging ourselves.
The higher our ideals, the more prone we are to become to self judging. We experience pressure when we are always trying to improve ourselves by living in the world fearing that we will fall short or not meet our own standards. What if we looked at our high visions and discovered that we had the lowest self-worth. The more we judge ourselves, the more people we attract that criticize us and make us wrong.
Judgment blocks energy and blocked energy sets up resistance, makes us defensive and we end up holding on to negative patterns. When you release judgment it opens a way for you to transform your life.
What would it be like to live the as best you can, accept your mistakes, learn from and do a little better each time? What if you completely accepted yourself and others for all they are and all they are not? What if you accepted your mistakes, learned from them, what kind of life would you have? What if there was nothing to prove and there was just a great life to live. What could your life look like if you were to Live Life Your Way?
Noreen Sumpter, Personal Life Coach: works with High Achievers who feel trapped in their private life. They lack personal confidence and self-esteem. By helping them clear mental clutter and dissolve limiting beliefs, they can take deliberate steps, own their voice, speak their truth and have the freedom to live life their way.
Calling in the One Unapologetically starts tomorrow. Are you ready to attract and manifest the love that you have yearned for?
In this life-changing nine-week workshop, you learn and discover the love that truly makes you happy. Each session in the Calling in “The One” Unapologetically is designed to help you identify and remove the inner blocks that have kept love from being rooted in your life. The workshop will provide you with a progressive path to become free, clear and open to your life — where loving relationships manifest.
In 2014 for one year I have been leading Calling in the One Unapologetically, a workshop for women who are looking to expand their capacity to give and receive love in their lives. This workshop is so much fun and very valuable. It is a high level and rewarding workshop.
The women in the workshop are phenomenal, they come from all walks of life and all ages. They are dynamic, sexy, articulate and amazing. They come together with the sole purpose of finding a partner and creating their best life. They make no excuses for what they want in their romantic relationships, they are ready to discover what it is that they are doing or not doing, that is at the root of them not fulfilling or having intimate relationships with a man or woman of their dreams.
These are women who are willing to clear out the obstacles that have been holding them back from love. They are creating their best life to bring in the perfect partner. This workshop is powerful and it is not for the faint of heart, it’s for woman who are committed to being in relationships that are vulnerable and courageous. It is a live and direct workshop.
If you are a woman who wants to sit back and wait for a relationship to come to you, don’t bother registering. This is a seminar where the woman are like surgeons, they get scrubbed up and are ready to go to work honing their skills and take massive action for what they want.
The workshop is for 9 weeks, at the cost of $250.00 and it starts January 15th 2015 at 7:00pm. The location is 500 8th Avenue #1206 New York, NY 10018.
Facilitator: Noreen Sumpter, Personal Life Coach. Certified by New York
If you are interested in finding out more about this workshop contact 917 945 5907 or visit www.Callinginthe1Unapologetically.com.
The Calling In the One Unapologetically workshop is complete and we will be starting a new one on January 15th 2015. I could not have asked for a better 2014. I really had a fantastic time leading the workshop this year. Ladies, I have been given a divine responsibility to transform myself and to make sure that women on the planet have courage and truly be able to give and receive love in a way that is personal to them. The women who completed the workshop find themselves in a space of gratitude, love and happiness. They’ve that they have control in all realms of their life – from dating, work and career, their homes community and their environment in a definite way. The women discover themselves fully in all areas of their life and they reclaim their power, freedom and full self-expression.
In Calling In the One, my heart expanded in such a way I could never have imagined. The women, with the support and help of their personal Doula (Woman Servant), expanded themselves in relationships with men, women, work, finances and many other areas. They discovered that dating is just one aspect of loving. In other areas of their life CITOU allowed them to give love and receive love with courage and freedom. They now realize how love and the honesty of love is very important to them and it’s their birthright. However, what they also experience is love as something they already are, not something they must seek; they learn to trust themselves and share it.
In Calling In the One Unapologetically the women who have participated range in age from 20’s to 60’s; they come in on an equal footing. Everyone comes looking for ways to transform themselves and create love in their lives. Some of the women have never had long-term relationships, some are 40- somethings who have never been married, and some have been married one or more times. We have lesbians and transgender people. They are no differences; all are expanding their capacity to give and receive love – powerful love. Calling In the One Unapologetically is for all women: married, single, gay, straight, transgender – women. I make no bones about it, it is for all women.
In Calling In the One Unapologetically, the word Unapologetically is added to have women see that they do not or never ever have to apologize for what they desire in life. Every area in life can get transformed in the workshop, whatever is important to you, so you can live a life fully engaged in all areas, never stalled waiting for one thing to happen before you can do another thing.
In Calling in the One Unapologetically, rejection is struck from the dictionary. Rejection is a universal concern for all people: In Calling In The One Unapologetically, speaking and acting without certainty is powerless. The women discover that rejection is a method of incongruity. They discover that they cannot be rejected by anyone except themselves. Many of the women who take Calling In the One Unapologetically, although they are committed to creating love in their lives, they have not experienced love in a good while. Many of them have not dated for a number of months or years and have been on the cycle of dating since they were teenagers. One of the big things that becomes clear in Calling In the One Unapologetically is that without self-love there is no love at all. When self-love becomes evident, that is when life and love opens up.
In Calling In the One Unapologetically, women experience all aspects of dating, from the experience of relationships ending, and choices being made. Apartments being made over, relationship from out of the blue being completed, all kinds of unexpected and inspiring occurrences. This is a magical workshop where anything is possible. If you are interested in growing and expanding your capacity to give and receive love powerfully, join us:
Calling in the One Unapologetically starts January 15th 2015.
Wow, wow, wow. What fun, what happiness did I experience last week! It was heart pounding. I was so excited to have the women in my workshop complete yesterday. We celebrated and shared our hearts out. It was completely amazing. The women who attended were beautiful generous and amazing. They shared so effectively, you would have thought that after a few minutes that they were in a mini version of Calling in the One Unapologetically.
We ate and of course we drank Prosecco, sweeties what’s life without a little bubbly? I of course dressed beautifully in gratitude of our party. (Give me a reason to dress up) Calling in the one Unapologetically is not for the weak of heart. It is not for women who are in a constant complaint about life.
Calling In The One Unapologetically is for that woman who is ready to take on her life by creating the love of her life by taking on herself and live a life filled with love, happiness and freedom.
Last night, we registered a woman who had done Calling in the One by herself. She said it took her two years to do all the work. It only took her to a certain place but she did not fulfill on what it she desired. She became overwhelmed with herself. She became one of the first to register why because she was in the right place at the right time and she knew what she had come for. How exciting was that?
Ladies, there is no shame in saying that you want connection, that you want love in your life. I met another woman yesterday who said that she was putting off creating love in her life for 2 years. How is that possible? Love is everything. One cannot put love on pause. She was going to focus on her career. In calling in the one you focus on everything because life is not linear it does not go in one direction. Putting things off of 2 years. Do you want to know there is no 2 years? All that remains is now. Right now. There is not tomorrow there is only now.
Calling in the One Unapologetically, is for the brave. By brave I mean women who have challenges around their life and they are willing to take the small steps to transform their life. I am honored to be the One who has been given this opportunity to give my life to having myself and others go for what they want in their lives.
Calling in the One is for all women. It is for women who love men and for woman who love women. Love is love and the members of Calling in the One are women who embrace choice powerfully. My personal initiative is Happy Woman Happy World. Big love to you all.