“What a Bitch!” “I cannot believe she’s so Bitchy.” “She is one hard Bitch.”
Have you noticed when a woman is confident and feels truly good about herself, knows what she wants, has clear concise boundaries and is developing her personal power in a healthy way, she is often referred to as Bitch. Some of her friends might even say things like “she has changed.” Of course she changed. Everyone changes over time.
Who wants to stay the same? Who wants to remain ignorant and insecure? I don’t think any woman wants that. Life is a series of choices and so we change.
It is time to stop seeking external validation, by being “nice”, living in guilt, feeling afraid, being people pleaser, or by downplaying your needs and by putting yourself last. It’s time to own your personal power and deal with yourself by:
• Owning the Bitch Within
• Learning to be Selfish
• Going for your desires
• Playing a bigger life game
Bringing forth your personal power
The word Bitch might have negative connotations; but in some areas of life if you’re a woman on a mission and up to big things, at some point you will be called a bitch to your face. But more often than not, it’s behind your back. It’s important to become okay with yourself the way you are and not feel you have to defend yourself against stupidity.
Gossip, is a part of life. When people don’t know you they will make up all kinds of stories about you until they find out the truth. I have a saying, if no one is talking about you, you really not up to much. But, when you’ve learned to deal with fear and yourself, the term bitch, will no longer have control over you. You’ll experience major growth and personal power. Then any comment made about you, will no longer produce a negative feeling or result, it will be like water off a ducks back.
A Woman Owning the Bitch Within
In order to love the bitch within, you have to know and own that bitch. In this blog, the bitch I’m referring to is a strong, confident loving person that has healthy boundaries. She knows that nothing is personal. This Bitch accepts herself for all she is and all she is not. She is grateful for her mind, potential and life and is willing to create anything she wants to experience. She knows that mistakes are a part of the journey of growth and development. She knows that nothing is ever really wrong. She is 100% responsible for her life, the way it is and the way it is not. She is open to living a joyous life knowing that things happen for the greater good. She knows she has choices and can complain, or be a victim in a continuous cycle of negativity and righteousness.
Learning to be Selfish
This Bitch she is very selfish. However, the reason why she is selfish is because she knows she does not come from a deficit in any area in her life. She is abundant in her way of being. She gives 100% because she coming from a place of self-love, abundance and generosity. Self-love is a heartfelt experience. This is not the kind of Bitch that is aggressive and negates other people’s rights. She is empowered and thus empowers others. She is willing to take responsibility for her life and gives up making excuses. This is not the kind of selfishness that does not care about the effects of her actions on other people. This Bitch is not aggressive or controlling. Being Selfish means that you make sure that you are taken care of. When you are completely taken care, you have an abundance of self to give away. When you say yes, you mean yes. When say no, you mean no. There is no questioning of choice. Everything is sent out for the highest good and everyone receives the highest good back.
Going for your desires
This bitch goes for, knows and asks clearly for exactly what she wants. She also knows that clarity is one of the keys to having it all, so she does not settle for less than what she wants. She also knows that if she has the right to go for her desires, so does everyone else. She knows that the universe is abundant. Being fulfilled in all of her desires is important. Her desires are important. She will ask as many times as it is necessary to get what she really wants. She knows when she stops asking for her desires, it not that she cannot have it. It’s that something better has shown up and taken it place. Desires are continuous and so we keep on asking until old desires are met and new ones are created.
Playing a bigger game
This Bitch knows that playing a bigger game in life does not have anything to do with size or amount, it means being authentic and honest with one’s thoughts and feelings. Having the freedom to live one’s dream. Being happy with her choices so that her energy can be directed where she would like it to be. She believes in herself and she believes that all things are possible. She knows to achieve the life she wants. Believing in herself is a choice. It’s an attitude that she has developed for herself overtime. She does not blame her family for the hand that she was dealt, or the race, physical size or class that she was born into. She knows that she is responsible for her own concepts and she can change them. Her game in life is personal to her and no one ever has to agree or want to play. She is okay about other people’s opinions, as she knows their opinions are none of her business.
Bringing forth your personal power
The Complete Bitch has personal power. She needs no reason, she just is. It is her very own. The Bitch that I speak of knows that if she is going to be successful in her life in her own right. She knows that it’s the way she handles herself and owns the Bitch within. Personal Power is within us to create the lives we want. The life we dream about and the life that we were born to live. You have to claim your personal power.
What would you life look like if you owned the bitch within and gave up complaining? If you took responsibility and started being a woman and owning the Bitch within? I invite you to add your comments in the box below.