R-E-S-P-E-C-T Find out what it means to me R-E-S-P-E-C-T Take care, TCB
This is a just a few words from the song made famous by Aretha Franklin. In order for her to have written this song, she must have had it up to her eyeballs with the lack of respect. We all love the song because of it catchy little melody and because it resonates for most of us.
Well, respect is a really important desire for all of us. It is something that makes all of our relationships work well. It also makes us feel comfortable and gives clear boundaries when we know that we’ve got it. I think that respect is very important because it’s given or felt by each toward the other; mutual: reciprocal respect. I like when I have reciprocal respect for my fellow human. It just feels good. It helps me understand the natural boundaries that we’ve created. It also allows me a sense of freedom, because I know how far I can and cannot go with the person and it lets them know about me.
What I cannot understand is when we do not honor our personal word. We cannot, for whatever reason, follow through on our own word. We cannot and do not complete actions that were started. It is very confusing and frustrating. I often wonder how we do business with a sickly word. A word that resembles Diarrhea. Diarrhea describes bowel movements (stools) that are loose and watery. Just like our words, loose and watery, with no substance to it at all. Appointments get made with no intention of following through, saying yes when you mean no, having no follow through. I know that when we behave in this manner, we really do not understand or might not even feel the impact of our word on another. I also know that this kind of behavior is not personal. As what we are in this manner is what we are all the time.
Often times, this form of integrity diarrhea is so common, that we do not understand the sometimes serious affects we have on others in the sense of their time and their money.
They do not know that one could consider a very quick remedy just like an over the counter medicine that can cure sometimes in an instant or in a matter of a few days. Consequently, the verbal integrity, can be cured with just one quick action like a phone call or an apology or whatever shape it takes the cleaning up the mess would take.
A question is what would have you be out of integrity and have it linger longer than is necessary?
What kind of fear or neglect would have you shut yourself down?
What does it feel like when you encounter the person again?
What is the fear that has you not honor your word or integrity?
The big question is why you would continue live in this kind of messy situation?
I have taken a good look at my level of integrity, and I have found that in the past I was not even aware of how it impacted others. I was totally unconscious of this behavior that I had become an expert in. However what is I now is that if I am out of integrity
I get it upset if I consciously ignore my word.
I get sick to my stomach and I feel jittery
I do not feel good about myself.
I erode my sense of personal trust
How does it make you feel?
I have now developed a relationship to being my word and integrity to myself, regardless of the pain I might experience. What I have found is I feel so much better in my communication and all things get completed fully and I have room to do excellent business, am an excellent friend and live life openly and honestly. I feel a sense of empowerment and I realize that nothing is ever that wrong and failure is an opportunity to win and win big.