Taking this self-boundaries quiz will help you understand yourself a little bit more.  Get out a piece of paper and a pen, and number the paper 1-26.  Right down your answer for the corresponding questions.  Choose one of these answers for each question: always, usually, sometimes, rarely or never. Be honest with yourself and choose your first impulse.  The point in life is to love yourself and accept yourself for who you are. Second guessing your answers can lower your self esteem.  There is no right or wrong answer, only your truth.

1 -Do you carry emotional and physical baggage into your current relationships?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

2 -Have you been hurt and find yourself insecure thinking it will happen again?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

3 -Do you blame yourself for the mental, physical or emotional hurt you allowed to happen to you?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

4 -Do you believe that whoever says I love you first loses?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

5 -You tell a partner you love them often but they do not say it back. Does this make you feel rejected and stupid but you still love them anyway?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

6 -Do you look for someone to love you in your relationships instead of giving yourself the love that you have?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

7 -Do you feel that you are not heard, known and seen in all your relationships?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

8 -Do you avoid sharing yourself completely in all your relationships?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

9 -Do you think that people can know who you are solely by spending time with you?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

10 -Do you feel unable to express yourself fully in your sexual encounters?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

11 -Do you have sex mainly for the pleasure of another?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

12 -Do you think you when it comes to your sexual and orgasmic pleasure, are you unable to fully allow yourself to be present and enjoy?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

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13 – Do you keep yourself from having time to grieve your upsets and break ups?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

14 – Do you have internal anger?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

15 – Do you not allow yourself the opportunity to get angry?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

16 – Do you say yes to your partner when you want to say no? Do you say no when you want to say yes?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

17 – Do you hide your truth in mind chatter?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

18 -Do you feel that you are not in control of your life?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

19 – Do you believe you lack the tools to make your life happen?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

20 – Do you lack trust in yourself to be faithful to your partner ?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

21 – Do you lack confidence to really let your partner know who you really are?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

22 – Do you lack confidence to state your opinions?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

23 – Do you save hurting people feelings by not telling your truth and then avoid them because you feel uncomfortable?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

24 -Do you have confidence and self esteem issues that no one knows about you?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

25 – Are you afraid to stand alone in the world without your job or job title?
Always      Usually    Sometimes         Rarely     Never

What do you think of your answers? Were you surprised? Are there some areas you want to change? Finding your voice and setting boundaries is important  as it  helps you to create yourself.  Creating and using your voice is one of the most important ways to have and live the life you want.  This is your life and you get to live it how you want.  It takes practice to release negative habits, ideas and images of fear. The first step is always the hardest, but when you do it, it will be the most memorable step as the spell will be broken.  Speaking to a therapist or life coach may help you overcome your fears of being heard and create confidence and self-respect.  Fear nothing, you can attempt everything.  But most of all speak up for yourself and find your voice and gain your personal power.  Congratulations on taking this first step.

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