No one wants to experience the pain of your past when they begin dating you. Everyone wants to date from a blank slate, they want to get to know you on their own terms and dating your past partners is not desirable. Your prospective partner does not want to hear how your exes hurt you, how you can’t trust anyone now, or what happened to you in the past. So, clean up that mess and start dating from a new fresh blank state.
What are the things that you would share about yourself at market/dating? People grumble that they cannot find a date. Why can’t you find a date? There are 6 billion people on the planet. So why is it so difficult to find a date? Is it you or your beliefs? Is it your belief that you are not good enough for anyone or no one is good enough for you?
What do you bring to the dating table?
Ask yourself these questions, as a person,
What is special about you?
What do you have to offer in a relationship?
What are your prize winning qualities?
What are you non prize winning qualities?
What areas are you willing to work on?
How do you feel about yourself mentally, emotionally and physically?
How do you feel about sex?
Do you love yourself?
Do you love others?
Are you generous or stingy?
What mess do you need to clean up before you start dating?
Are you overly picky, are you trying to date people that are not attracted to you?
Are you even available?
If you were to sell yourself at market what are the things that you would present on your ‘stall’? What are the things you would have under the table and not share openly? What are the things you are afraid to hear about yourself and for people to know about you? Maybe these are the things that you are going to have to rewrite in your life script.
A Personal Story
I had a client that had a hair loss problem and wore weaves all the time. She was embarrassed about her hair loss and also ashamed of an unwanted pregnancy she had had sometime ago. She met a man that she enjoyed being with. He in turn enjoyed being with her. However, she was worried that he would not like her because of her severe hair loss due to weaves and alopecia. After our work together, she was able to come clean first with herself and then she courageously told him her situation. He heard her and replied “I don’t care about your hair. Women wear hair pieces all the time, I do not care about your unwanted pregnancies. I want you. “ After her confession, she was relieved by his love for her and she reflects on how her shame has been hovering over all of her past relationships, bringing them nothing but pain and sorrow. In the end, they are now happily married and expecting their own baby.
The main lesson to be learned is: If you are okay with yourself, the man/woman that likes/loves you will be okay with you.
When starting to date, take it easy on yourself. It is important that you come to terms with all your upsets, fears and concerns. You have to forgive yourself and make sure you have taken the time to heal from any past relationships. It’s important to have a heart to heart with yourself and make sure that you are ready to date. No one wants to date your past. What past pains are you bringing into your marketplace?
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