- You are highly intelligent and well put together. You’ve got it going on, but you feel that you’re not going anywhere. The only thing that’s changing is time and your age. (Yes, I went there.) You have the trappings of a good life, but something’s missing?
- Do you feel empty and confused and you don’t know why?
- Do you come home from a successful day of work and look in the mirror and see a beautiful woman who is not happy?
- What do you want?
- What is important to you?
- What do you really care about?
FEAR: False Evidence Appearing As Real
- Afraid to take personal risks?
- Afraid to put yourself out there to ask for what you want?
- Your think your fears are real?
What I do as your coach?
- Build your inner confidence
- Have you get real and authentic with yourself
- Have you develop a strong sense of who you truly are
- Have you let go of your fears and gain courage
- Have you go after what you want.
While working with me, you will begin to take deliberate steps to go after what you want and get what is important to you. You will remove the things that are in your way. You will begin to really take care of yourself and develop a relationship with yourself and others, And over time you will embrace your inner value and self-worth. By developing a long lasting relationship where you put yourself first authentically, you will be free to live life your way, using the tools that will last a lifetime.
What others have gained coaching with me…
Noreen does exactly what a coach should do – listen, support and encourage. I appreciate how flexible, realistic and down to earth she is, and I can tell that she has a real passion for her work. I experienced results much faster than I ever expected, and I have her to thank for that. – Robin G., New York
I put my trust in Noreen, the process, myself, and the universe to provide. To my surprise, within a couple months, the perfect job came my way. From that point forward, I became a true believer in this process and what it is capable of. – Laurie K., Michigan
Who am I? Noreen Sumpter, Personal Life Coach, based in Brooklyn, New York. I work with women to help them build confidence in areas of their life that are most important to them.
My life had no single “defining moment.” Rather, I faced times in my life when I needed to take a stand for myself or be lost forever, living my life by someone else’s design, not by my own.
I know where you are.
Internal anger and lack of confidence ruled my world. I was a runner. Mine was a deep anger that was turned in on myself. My stomach was always in knots, and I swallowed my voice, sulking and shutting down. Or, I could go off in an instant.
My parents taught me: “You only give 99% of yourself to anyone and the other 1% you keep, because you will go mad if you give yourself away by loving too deeply. Never let anyone know what you are thinking. Never let anyone know your business because they could use it against you.” That was how I was raised; that is what I knew then. How would I survive? I was so emotionally disconnected!
Who would I talk to? Who would hear my secrets? I kept my secrets to myself. I found a way to go on, which was to work and work. I had to be good at whatever I did. It took a long time to learn how to ask for what I wanted. I had to learn to speak up for myself in a way that made people listen to me.
I thought I was confident until I had to say that I did not want to be married anymore. It took a long time to do that and a long time to discover what freedom was for me. I had never lived by myself. My confidence and self-esteem were in the crapper. I kept that hidden except when I had to make choices. I had none. I lived in the space of not being worth it. Negative internal conversations ran my life- I wasn’t good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, worthy enough.
Today, it is such a pleasure to know that these are just conversations. They will never go away, but now I know they are not real. It takes commitment to live my life. I feel connected to others, and because of that, today I express myself freely. I own my voice, speak my truth, and live life my way, running a successful business.
Noreen’s results from the Ariel Leadership Presence Self-Assessment:
Present – Excellent
Your response indicates that you possess a rare ability to remain centered, focused, open, and relaxed when facing the tensions and distractions of modern life. Your high self-assessment on this dimension also suggests that you maintain a heightened awareness of yourself and others in leadership interactions. In dealing with change, you possess a good deal of spontaneity and are able to cope well when unexpected fires appear. You approach people and situations with generosity and calm, rather than with anxiety. As someone who is strong in this dimensions, you are a natural model for others, engendering qualities of awareness and openness in those you work with.
Reaching Out – Excellent
Your responses indicate that you are someone with a natural ability and inclination to empathize, connect, and build relationships. You have a strong aptitude for listening and make authentic connections based on your genuine interest in other human beings. As a communicator, you reach beyond individual roles and work functions to a personal level of relating. You are not afraid to share of your own experiences as a way to bond and portray who you are as a leader while simultaneously looking to highlight the value that others bring to the table. You probably have an affiliative management style, letting those who work for you know that there is someone who cares, someone who is focused on more than just the work. Your ability to Reach Out is likely to be one of your core strengths.
Expressive – Excellent
Your score in this area indicates that you have a natural way of engaging others and are comfortable expressing yourself spontaneously and creatively. You come across as authentic, matching your gestures, facial expressions, voice, and choice of words to powerfully convey your passion. Audiences may often leave your presentations moved or galvanized for change. Others in your organization look to you as an inspiration for how to get across a point effectively, succinctly, and memorably. Your talent in this area means that your messages are often listened to, both in one-to-one meetings and in larger settings.
Self-Knowing – Excellent
Your score indicates that you see yourself as a confident individual with your feet planted firmly in the ground of values, clear beliefs, and an understanding of what is important in life and in business. You are likely to come across with a strong degree of self-confidence, and you probably take the time to think about who you are and the principles that guide your life. You take a clear stand in your work with others and bring clarity to tough situations. As a leader, you probably offer wisdom, vision, honesty, and vulnerability in your interactions with others and serve as a model for up-and-coming leaders in your organization. You almost certainly bring a valuable awareness of where you yourself still need to grow and change.